It may be a little early to talk about New Year's Resolutions, but many people start to think about them over the holidays. While the new year is a great time to start fresh, accomplishing your resolutions can be challenging.
According to the University of Scranton, research suggests that only 8% of people achieve their New Year's goals. Perhaps people who do not reach their goals are missing some key elements.
Before deciding on outward action, think about who you want to be. What do you want your life to look like a year from now? Do this before you decide on specific resolutions. Once you establish that, you can move on to an action plan. It does not have to be complicated, in fact, simple is often better.
Let’s look at some important principles that are commonly missed and set you up for success!
1. Clarify Your “Why?”
Take some time to slow down and get to know yourself. So often, we rush through life to the point where we lose track of ourselves. We must reconnect with our true selves to set meaningful goals. Notice what you are truly passionate about so that you know what is worth changing in your life. There’s no point in working hard towards a goal that doesn’t align with your values.
2. Know Thyself Deeper
Before attempting a healthy behavior, notice your inner experience surrounding your current practice. What drives your behavior? What does the behavior do for you? If you want to stop eating late at night, pay attention to the feelings you have when you eat before bed tonight. Your plan will look much different if you are hungry rather than if you are trying to cover loneliness. This is crucial if you are going to set yourself up for success. Don’t skip this step!
3. Be Specific
Goals need to be specific to be achievable. John Norcross of the University of Scranton says, “If you can't measure it, it's not a very good resolution because vague goals beget vague resolutions." Rather than deciding to exercise more, say you want to take a walk three times a week during your lunch break. Instead of trying to eat healthier, choose to have a serving of vegetables with 90% of your meals.
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Look at your calendar and think about your typical day. How much time do you spend on the activities associated with your values? How much of your day is spent on things that are not too important to you? If you notice most of your time isn't spent on your priorities, how can you change that?
The first step in making this change is becoming clear about your values. If we are not clear about what matters to us, the wishes of others can overwhelm us. We can use these values as a foundation when making decisions.
You can't do everything; there are only 24 hours in a day. It is not selfish to guard your resources, including time, energy, and money. Even considering the mental load you carry is important. Something may seem super simple, but if it is one more thing to remember, you may still benefit from declining.
Let's ask ourselves, "Does my life reflect my values?"
My Health Is a Major Priority
If I don’t have my health, I don’t have anything. Being healthy is what gives me a great quality of life. I support my health by...
- Eating nutritious food
- Moving my body
- Spending time with friends and family
- Going outside
- Sleeping well
- Reducing stress
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Some of the most cherished gifts are things you can’t wrap to put under the tree. Since most of us don’t need more material goods, I love giving experiences that make lasting memories!
One of my favorite gifts from my parents was a family membership to the DuPage Children's Museum. It was so much fun, and we thought of them every time we went there throughout the year.
When you give an experience as a gift, the key is finding something they will enjoy that fits your budget. It could be a date to a local coffee shop or something more extravagant. The cost does not matter as much as the personalized touch behind it. So, think about the person. How can your gift show them that you know and care about them?
Let’s look at some ideas for experiences your loved ones may enjoy!
Children
Experiences give the child a memory that will last far longer than any toy. Think about getting them a…
- pass or membership to the Zoo (Brookfield and Cosley Zoo are both great)
- membership to a children's museum
- ticket to a new movie (with money for popcorn of course)
- ticket to take the Metra train (into the city or to Toot Toot’s restaurant in Glen Ellyn)
- kid's manicure/pedicure
- ticket to a children’s show at a local theater (Frozen is playing at the Paramount in Aurora, IL)
- ticket to a sporting event
- couple of games of bowling (don't forget the shoe rental)
- horseback riding lesson
- series of swim lessons
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World Kindness Day encourages us to show kindness to strangers, co-workers, acquaintances, loved ones, and ourselves. Twenty-eight countries celebrate the holiday which was introduced by a coalition of nations' kindness organizations in 1998.
Kindness is defined as being friendly, generous, and considerate. It is a key component of living a full and beautiful life. Being kind is the foundation for developing healthy connections with others which positively impact our mental and physical health.
Acts of kindness also release oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins. This has a positive impact on your emotional and physical health as well. If you want to feel good, showing kindness is an easy place to start.
Let’s look at how you can incorporate kindness into your life today!
What Is Kindness
Kindness can be quite simple. Incorporating kindness into our lives will not take much time, money, or planning. We just need to be intentional about it. Words of encouragement, a genuine smile, or a compassionate tone can go a long way.
Sharing your kind thoughts is inexpensive and does not take much time. Everyone likes to hear things like, “You handled that situation well. It’s always nice when someone tells you that you have a great smile or that they like your shirt.
It takes no extra time to smile at someone as they walk past you on the street or say “thank you” to a service provider. Even watching your tone of voice when you are in a hurry or upset can show others kindness. These simple things can make someone’s day.
Being Kind to Others
Anita Rani says, “Kindness isn’t big, grand gestures. The small acts of kindness, they’re the important bits.” Chances are the people you feel closest to don’t do grand gestures frequently, but hopefully, they make you feel loved with the little things.
Making a pot of coffee, giving a hug before leaving, sending a quick text, or picking up a small token of love at the store are all ways to show kindness. Anything that shows someone you are thinking about them counts.
According to actor Maureen Lipman, “It’s great to do a good deed a day because you feel better about yourself, but actually the main aspect of kindness, the bit that’s difficult, is continuity. How do you be kind to someone you’re caring for.”
It is easy to take those we care about for granted. Sometimes we treat strangers better than those we care about most. Slow down and consider what you want to communicate to them through your words, tone, and actions.
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Proper breathing is crucial to health and helps maintain spinal stability. Faulty respiration mechanics can lead to recurrent back pain, shoulder problems, poor coordination, and lower cardiovascular endurance. It can also play a major role in chronic fatigue, anxiety, and panic attacks.
Unfortunately, improper breathing is more common than correct breathing. In a pilot study of 96 people in 2003 that assessed breathing mechanics, only 25% of people were found to breathe normally. The rest were either chest breathers, lacked normal movement of the lower rib cage, or had deep clavicular grooves.
Why are we such poor breathers? If you watch a baby breathe, they pretty much universally breathe perfectly. Over time, we spend many hours sitting in chairs, slumping forward at computers, or reclining while watching a show. These unnatural positions of our spine and rib cage cause us to find alternate ways to breathe.
Additionally, many of us look at models and strive for a "flat stomach." Normal breathing involves letting the belly go outward with each inspiration. It is impossible to breathe correctly when we hold our stomachs tight (consciously or subconsciously) to make them appear flatter.
Let's check your breathing and see if some adjustments could be beneficial.
Check Your Breathing
Try these steps in different positions: laying on your back, sitting up, standing, and doing an exercise such as a side plank. Some people breathe well in some positions but struggle with others. Check to see if your breathing fits the patterns below.
1. Place one hand over your abdomen/stomach, and another over your rib cage.
- During inspiration (breathing in) your abdomen should expand outward.
- During expiration, (breathing out) your abdomen should expand inward.
- Movement should start in the abdomen; not in the chest (even with a deep breath)
- Abdominal motion should be much more pronounced than rib/chest motion.
2. Now move one hand to each side of your body over your lower ribs and upper abdomen.
- The abdomen should expand all the way around through the entire cylinder, not just the front of the abdomen moving outward.
- As inspiration continues, the lower ribs should move outward in a horizontal plane.
- With your hands on your sides, the motion should seem equal on both sides
3. Are you breathing at an equal rhythm?
- Your heart rate should be fairly steady.
4. Brace your core as though I told you someone was going to "punch you in the stomach."
- Can you still take a breath with the proper mechanics?
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We can learn a lot about natural movement from our ancestors and children. Something common to both groups is sitting on the ground. Our earliest ancestors did not have comfy recliners or chairs at desks. They were sitting on the ground, tree stumps, and fallen logs.
Children live with modern furniture but often prefer sitting, learning, and playing on the floor. Sitting on the ground is natural; it engages our muscles and encourages our bodies to move naturally.
When you were younger sitting on the floor probably felt natural and comfortable. However, after years of sitting at work or reclining at home, it may feel a bit uncomfortable. That is okay; most people can build muscles to make it feel natural again.
Let’s look at how floor sitting could work for you.
Move Without Trying
We all know that movement is important for our health. Many people join gyms, sign up for personal trailers, take a run, or work out at home. Others struggle to make time for exercise but try to move more. These things are good, but they aren’t enough. You can be a gym rat and still be pretty sedentary the rest of the day. Sitting on the ground is a great way to move more during sedentary time.
Time-Lapse Video
A time-lapse video of sitting on the couch for two hours would be pretty boring; there would not be much movement. Sitting on the floor would involve much more movement, engaging your core muscles in ways comfy furniture does not.
Sitting or lying on the couch is so “comfortable” that you can turn off your major muscle groups. Even when in a compromised position where joints are placed in unnatural ways, the comfy cushions allow these damaging positions to go unnoticed.
However, since sitting on the ground in one position can become slightly uncomfortable, your body will shift to find another position often. This leads to more movement and muscle engagement in “sedentary” times. The video would probably resemble a stretching session.
When Should You Sit on the Floor?
Sit on the floor during your normal activities: watching a movie, playing with kids, or working on your laptop. While I may not have time to spend an extra hour stretching at the gym, I can use the time I already spend playing with my girls or watching a show.
This is better than having a perfect ergonomic that makes us comfortable enough to disengage our muscles. We tend to move and take more breaks when we are less comfortable. (Honestly, I don’t believe there is any good way to sit at a desk for hours of computer work daily.)
What Position Should You Sit In?
You don’t need to pick a position. That is the beauty of this, you don’t stay in any one position for a long time when sitting on the ground. Rather, you sit in one position and move to another when you tire.
Here is an article by one of my favorite authors, Katy Bowman. It discusses floor sitting and contains graphs showing different sitting options. She embraced the idea so thoroughly, she no longer has furniture in her house! You do not need to go to that extreme to benefit from sitting on the floor.
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